Read this book BEFORE: you need to. When you’ve been lacking sleep, it will be hard to read anything, let alone get through a book about infant sleep.
She gathered a group of 60 mamas as test mamas.
Part 1 – 10 Steps to Helping Your Baby Sleep All Night
Chapter 1 – Safety Check
Safety Precautions for Cradles/Cribs
1) Meets federal regulations. Look for safety certification seal. Avoid using old or used.
2) Mattress fits tightly, without gaps (no more than 2 fingers)
3) Crib sheets secure. No plastic mattress covered or plastic bags near crib.
4) Remove decorative ribbons, bows, strings.
5) No bumper pads before baby is old enough to get up on hands and knees. When baby can stand, make sure mattress is lowest. Inspect for dangers in hands reach.
6) All screws, bolts, springs tightly secured.
7) Corner posts safe and not sharp.
8) No hanging objects.
9) Portable cribs – make sure locking devices secured.
10) Baby within hearing distance of bed.
11) Suggested size and weight limits.
12) Safe sleeping while away from home.
1) 1999 U.S. CPSC recommendation against co sleeping with baby under 2. Nearly 70% of parents share sleep with baby.
2) Bed safe for baby – mattress on floor, no crevices. Mattress flat, firm, smooth. No soft surfaces such as water bed, sofa, pillow-top mattress.
3) Fitted sheets secure
4) Raised bed- use mesh guardrails and no space between mattress and headboard or footboard.
5) No space between mattress and wall.
6) Infants placed between mother and wall or guardrail. Others don’t have same instinctual awareness. If mom doesn’t wake up easily, consider sleeping elsewhere.
7) Large mattress
8) Consider sidecar arrangement
9) Room is child safe
10) Don’t sleep with baby if have been drinking alcohol, used drugs or medications or an especially sound sleeper or suffering from sleep deprivation and find it difficult to awaken.
11) Don’t sleep with baby if large person.
12) Remove all pillows and blankets in early months. Breastfeeding moms can cut up old turtleneck if cold. Body heat adds warmth; check to make sure baby not overheated.
13) No night clothes with strings/long ribbons. No jewelry. Pin up long hair.
14) No Strong-smelling perfumes.
15) No pets in bed.
16) Never alone in bed if not perfectly safe.
Chapter 2 Learn Basic Sleep Facts
Chapter 3- Create Your Sleep Logs
Put scrap paper and pencil next to bed (not pen since pencil more reliable in dark). Clock you can see. In morning, immediately transfer notes to log.
Chapter 4: Review and Choose Sleep Solutions
Stick with them at least 2-3 weeks.
Newborns – Birth to 4 months
Older Babies – 4 months to 2 Years
Babies Older than 18 months
Cut pictures that pertain to sleep and show baby what is happening – a sleep baby book. Customize for your family. Make a bedtime poster. Bedtime Chart – put on pajamas. Have a snack. Brush teeth. Read 3 books. Drink water. Go potty. Turn on night light. Kisses, hugs, back rub. Sleep. Mommy and daddy go to sleep.
Chapter 5 Create Your Personal Sleep Plan
Used ideas in Chapter 4 to created one that sounds reasonable for you family. Put on fridge or bathroom mirror and implement every day. Example in book.
Chapter 6 Follow Your Plan for 10 Days
Make baby’s sleep a priority for next month or 2 so avoid going out during scheduled nap times/ during your prebedtime routine & bedtime. Road to success is more like a dance.
Chapter 7 Do a 10 Day Log
After you’ve followed for at least 10 days, do another set of sleep logs, analyze your success and make any necessary changes to your plans. You’ll do this every 10 days until you follow your sleep plan.
Chapter 8 Analyze Your Success and Adjust Plan Accordingly
Figure out which parts of your plans are working and which ones need to be analyzed. Use 10 day log charts from chapter 7 and do a comparison. Medical reasons it might not be working could be teething, separation anxiety, developmental milestones and growth spurts, general illness and discomfort (including immunizations), gas and colic, ear infections, reflux, allergies/asthma, nightmares, night terrors, sleepwalking, talking, snoring, sleep apnea.
Chapter 9 Follow Your Plan for 10 More Days
Followed steps in Chapters 7 and 8. Every baby is different. If not working, take a break, get serious, a temperate alternative to letting baby cry it out (if baby older than 1, increase time you cuddle during day, teach baby difference between night and dark, explain expectations at bedtime, repeat if they wake during night, whisper words of comfort…)
Chapter 10 Complete a Log, Analyze Success and Revise Plan as Necessary Every 10 Days
Do another set of sleep logs, analyze your success and make changes. Keep this book handy.
Part II – Let’s Talk About You
Chapter 11 – Baby’s Sleeping (Finally!) but Mommy’s Not
Many parents find that once their baby is sleeping soundly, they continue their own pattern of frequent night waking. 8 hours is the amount of time that sleep experts recommend for most adults. Most sleep 7. At least ½ have trouble falling asleep and staying asleep. As we age, the amount of sleep we need and the amount of sleep we get tend to decline and sleep problems increase. 43% report disturbed sleep the week before their period and 71% have disturbed sleep during. 79% report sleep problems during pregnancy. Stresses of adult life contribute to our sleep problems. 50-90% of those older than 60 have sleep problems.
Chapter 12 – Final Thoughts: Mom to Mom
Someone to talk to via home or internet can mean difference between depression and commitment. Find support.
Patience, patience and just a little more patience. “This too shall pass”
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